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Mini Habits Audiobook

What happens when you combine one of the highest-rated books on the marketplace with the world’s greatest narrator?

The one audiobook to rule them all. 

Daniel Penz (narrator) makes Mini Habits even more engaging than usual because he reads it with amazing inflection; he isn’t afraid to “modify” his voice either. Some parts will have you laughing out loud.

Of course, it’s not just for fun: Mini Habits is a life-changing book. If you’re going on a road trip soon and want something to listen to or if you simply prefer the audio form of books, you will not be disappointed!

Buy the Mini Habits audiobook:
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PS. The audiobook is 3 hours and 40 minutes long and completely awesome.

Mini Habit Mastery

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Q: What Is Mini Habit Mastery?

It is a video course based on the Mini Habits concept. It contains about 4 hours of video content, which shows you the scientific way to change your habits. Click this link to get an immediate discount on Mini Habit Mastery!

Q: Is it different from the Mini Habits book?

Yes and no.It contains new material, new visuals, charts, comparison tables, demonstrations, and more, but it is still based on the mini habits concept, and so there will be some repeat information that was in the book. MH222There are some things in the book that are not in the course and vice versa. The course is a more streamlined version of the mini habits concept. It focuses on the essential components.

There is an additional section in the course on eliminating bad habits using the Mini Habits strategy (20 min). The book only covered good habits.

Q: If I bought the book, should I buy the course?

I can’t say for sure. There are certainly some new things in the course and some people learn better visually. But it is the mini habits concept in video format. If you’re a fan of mini habits and can’t get enough or if you want some additional insights, you’ll love it. And I believe an expert in the mini habits theory would at least find it to be entertaining.

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I’ll likely have a few of the videos available to preview, so you can get a feel for the course and what it will offer.

Q: How is it different from other online courses?

  • It’s edutainment! Significant effort has gone in to make this course more enjoyable, fun, and interesting than any other!
  • It stars Actress Laura Avnaim, who brings the material to life!
  • It’s dynamic, with more than a dozen presentation styles to keep you interested.
  • It has higher quality video, audio, and editing than 95% of the courses I’ve seen on Udemy.
  • It contains the proven, acclaimed, and ridiculously effective Mini Habits strategy.
  • It took more than 7 months of daily work to complete and fine-tune (others seem to be content to throw courses together in a weekend with low quality content, video, audio, and editing).
  • It’s a smart application of relevant science from multiple fields (primarily behavioral psychology and neuroscience).

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Q: When will it be released?

It’s available now!

Q: How much does it cost?

See the current price here (minihabits.com discount applied).

Q: Can I preview the course?

Yes! There is a new preview video on Udemy and three course videos are previewable.

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Q: Sounds good, but how can you claim so much about the mini habits strategy?

Mini Habits has sold more than 200,000 copies worldwide despite a scrawny marketing budget. The reason it has succeeded is because people are telling their family and friends about these “mini habits” they have that are changing their life! They also write to me and tell me how it’s helping them. I’m never surprised, as I too have changed my life with mini habits.

I always recommend people look at the reviews. I have never bought a review or asked a friend to review Mini Habits. Not once. I have actively discouraged family and friends from leaving reviews.

Review manipulation is common practice for other authors, but I think it’s unethical and unfair. Even though I’ve played the review game fairly, Mini Habits is one of the highest-rated habit books among top sellers at 4.6 stars. The response has been spectacular, humbling, and inspiring.

Q: Anything else?

I don’t release products to make money. I mean, yeah, I do this for a living, but that’s only so that I can do this for a living! I hope that makes sense.

I’ve been careful about making sure people who spend their money to improve their lives and support my work get what they expect plus a little bit more. I believe in over-delivering, which is why minihabits.com readers get a hefty discount!

I sincerely hope that you enjoy this course, and that it impacts your life positively.

Mini Habits for Weight Loss

Can you guess the #1 issue with 99.9% of all weight loss solutions ever devised?

Sustainability.

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This article is a “deleted scene” that didn’t make it into Mini Habits for Weight Loss. If you can relate to this, you’ll love the book!

Neither 30-day diets or 10-day juice fasts are real solutions for weight loss. These are foreign behavioral and dietary anomalies that your mind and body will force-correct in time. They can create the illusion of change, but unless your brain’s neural pathways change through sustainable repetition, you’re going to revert to who you still are underneath.

As tempting as these quick change ideas are initially, you will despisethem (as I do) after experiencing what real change feels and looks like. I saw a youtube video of a woman who had just finished a popular “10 day green smoothie cleanse” (yes, that one).She was so excited to have lost 15 pounds in 10 days. She posted the video in 2014, but I saw the video in 2015, a full year after she posted it. Curious about her progress a year later, I scrolled down to see a recent comment of hers that read, “I am not doing so well in the weight department.”

It’s no mystery why fad diets and “cleanses” get popular. People get rapid, temporary results, which excites them enough to tell everyone they know. Long term, their success is not sustained—they regain the weight—but the creators of these short-term plans only need that initial excitement to make their sales skyrocket.

The Only Permanent Solution

The only permanent weight loss solution comes from a permanent change in the individual. That’s something that no diet has been able to achieve with regularity. Nor should we expect them to!

Diets are not change strategies, they’re merely a suggestion of what food to eat. Most books presenting a new diet completely ignore strategy and adopt the ubiquitous “just eat this way” philosophy. If attempted straight up, a new diet is a harsh, strict change from the norm that is extremely difficult to maintain over time.

Calorie counting, the supposed “anti-diet solution,” is not conceptually different than a new diet plan. Instead of eating different food than you’re used to, calorie counting is eating less food than you’re used to. It’s even more of a pain, too, as you have to track every piece of food you eat, and add up your calories. I have to solve math problems to turn off my alarm clock in the morning—I like math—but I would not want to count calories!

Who wants to punish themselves for life to be thinner? Who wants to micromanage their life to be thinner? Nobody wants to do either, but they think it’s necessary. It’s not.

Put the pieces together, and this is why so many people are overweight and feel a sense of despair. They see it as a choice between being happy and enjoying life or weighing less and being healthier. With the current literature on weight loss, I completely understand the despair. Do you see the problem I see?

Most weight loss solutions don’t consider who you are right now. They only care about the actions you can take and the effect those actions will have on your body. They leave the actual change part, the hard part, up to you. “Count your calories, never eat carbohydrates again, lose the dietary fat, and stop eating sugar,” they’ll say. And you’re left there to figure out how to do it. This is why long-term diet adherence is so low. A failure to adhere to something means that the strategy didn’t work.

Any change you attempt to make should be sustainable in practically all circumstances. You should be able to do it in the worst storm of your life. You should be able to do it when you’re tired. You should be able to do it when you’re unmotivated. And isn’t this common sense?

Who, while preparing to scale a mighty mountain or sail a feral sea, packs their gear with the assumption of perfect weather? Smart adventurers know to prepare for the worst so that they can overcome any adversity that may come. Why haven’t we learned to do this with our attempts to change? When a person doesn’t bring snow gear to a mountain known for blizzards, we call them foolish. When a person assumes they will always be motivated, we cheer for them.

Weightcations

The whole point of getting to a healthier weight is to stay there and live out those benefits. If you get there and gain your weight back later, it’s a weightcation.

Can you perceive a pattern here?

  1. Person adopts diet plan
  2. Diet “works” and person loses weight
  3. Person is happy
  4. Person drifts back to their normal life
  5. Person gains weight and needs to go on a diet again
  6. Person gets excited about a new fad diet
  7. Repeat step one

The bright side of dieting is thinking and caring about what and how much you eat. When you’re mindful, you’re less likely to consume (excessive amounts of) unhealthy food and drink. The concept of dieting, however, is fundamentally flawed.

Weight loss needs to be a methodical, calculated venture, not a barbaric rush to drop 20 pounds in 20 days or overhaul your dietary habits overnight. When you regain weight previously lost, not only have you altered your metabolism to favor weight gain, not only have you been set back, but you’ve wasted time and will be emotionally hurt from teasing yourself with temporary results. And what do emotionally hurt people do? They (over)eat comfort food.

The journey to weight loss with mini habits seems so humble and insignificant at first. You’ll probably start out losing less weight than your friend Nancy, who is on the latest fad smoothie cleanse. It wasn’t nice of Nancy to rub it in, either, but you know Nancy (if your name is Nancy, I meant the other one). Later on, you’ll see Nancy’s weight loss progress slow, halt, and reverse as she realizes that not eating enough food is kind of a bummer.

As Nancy regains her weight, not only have you lost some weight, but you’ve been remarkably consistent with your changes, you’ve enjoyed the process rather than dreaded it, and you don’t feel like you’re being drained of life. You’re actually getting better at choosing the right foods over time (such is the magic of habits!). A successful change strategy will grant you freedom and empower you, not restrict you and make you feel like a slave to it. When people are restricted, they want to escape. When people are empowered, they can’t wait to continue.

Time passes. You’ve only lost seven pounds, but you smile, because you didn’t do anything extreme to get those results. Rather, you made small changes that you know you can sustain for the rest of your life. It’s a different feeling. It’s not euphoria as much as it’s a growing confidence that not only can you continue to lose weight, but you can keep it off as long as you want to. You’re not merely losing weight, you’re losing the mindset and habitsthat gained you weight. You’re conquering the roots of weight gain. You’re changing!

Think of it this way: In the right environment, a tiny spark can create a raging inferno. But in another environment, a large explosion might only last a second. We tend to think the size of the initial flame matters most, but it’s more about what that flame can become. Dieting offers a big explosion that quickly fizzles out. Mini habits use a small flame to build a strong fire that can burn for a lifetime.

The world needs an alternative to dieting. It needs Mini Habits for Weight Loss. Leave dieting behind for good.

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How to Be an Imperfectionist

How to Be an Imperfectionist is now available!

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Imagine that there is a 10,000 pound elephant in the road blocking traffic and you’re tasked to clear the road. The driver behind you yells out the solution: “Push the elephant out of the way!”

Pushing the elephant away would certainly clear the road; the solution makes sense. But can you actually push a 10,000 pound elephant out of the way? Probably not, and you might get stomped. That leads us to an important insight.

Solutions are worthless unless you’re able to successfully implement them.

How to Be an Imperfectionist is here. It is my second book. As the title indicates, it is a “how to” book, but unlike most how-to books or articles you’ll read, this book smartly incorporates the science of change into its perfectionism-reversing solutions.

The elephant in the road example is an obvious case of the importance of doable solutions. It’s far more difficult to recognize doable solutions in personal growth, because our greatest limitations are neither physical or visible—they’re mental and buried deep within our subconscious.

How to Be an Imperfectionist goes beyond surface-level “just push the elephant away” solutions. It goes deep into the psyche of a perfectionist and examines the motives and mechanisms that make us think and behave this way. Then it finds clever ways to reverse these processes and minifies them to make them accessible even to busy or unmotivated people.

Not only are the solutions doable and effective, but they’re put in the context of customizable plans to incorporate into your busy life. The mini size of the solutions overcome the “but I’m too busy/overwhelmed” problem, which is a common reason people fail to change.

Why Overcome Perfectionism?

To answer that question, I’ll show you the first part of the introduction from the book:

“In the most accurate, technical, and literal sense of the word, a pure perfectionist is someone who is completely dysfunctional in the real world. If you’re raising your hand and nodding right now, you’re likely to be exaggerating, as most of us are functional as perfectionists but don’t live optimally because of it.

  • Do you ever struggle to make decisions? Perfectionism.
  • Do you ever get intimidated by social situations? Perfectionism.
  • Do you ever procrastinate? Perfectionism.
  • Do you get depressed easily? (Likely) perfectionism.
  • Do you have low self-esteem? Perfectionism.

Perfectionism causes some of life’s worst mental problems because it makes life’s imperfections into bothersome, intimidating, and unsurpassable roadblocks. Perfectionists are driven mad or frozen in place by the chasm between desire and reality, which impairs their ability to progress and enjoy life. Only imperfectionists can tolerate imperfection, which is the defining attribute of our world.

Thankfully, perfectionism isn’t a permanent characteristic. We are capable of changing ourselves, but only with the right strategies. In order to find the right strategies for perfectionism, we must explore the roots of the problem.”

From How to Be an Imperfectionist

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One root cause of perfectionism is fearing mistakes. This illustration is from the “Concern over Mistakes” chapter.

What If I’m Not a Perfectionist?

It’d be hard to find one person without some kind of perfectionism holding them back. When I say I used to be a perfectionist, I don’t mean I’m 100% changed, I mean my general perspective and behavior have changed. It would be ironic if anyone managed to perfectly drop perfectionism. We’ve all got it to some degree, and we’d all benefit from having less of it.

How to Be an Imperfectionist contains 22 solutions. Most of them are for specific subsets of perfectionism, like needing approval or being concerned over mistakes. There are a couple general perfectionism solutions that can help with all of the subsets. Here’s one of them from the book:

General Perfectionism Solution

“A lever is “a rigid bar resting on a pivot, used to help move a heavy or firmly fixed load with one end when pressure is applied to the other.” It enables you to move something with much less force than if you tried to move the object unassisted. The upcoming insight is like a lever for imperfectionism in that it’s easier than a “blunt force” strategy of straight up trying to have more realistic standards. It is the “pivot point” of the imperfectionist mindset.

Pivot point: perfectionism and imperfectionism are determined by what you care about. The following list shows what cares to have (or not) in order to be an imperfectionist. If you follow this advice, I guarantee you’ll be happier with your life:

  • Care less about results. Care more about putting in the work.
  • Care less about problems. Care more about making progress despite them. Or if you must fix something, focus on the solution.
  • Care less about what other people think. Care more about who you want to be and what you want to do.
  • Care less about doing it right. Care more about doing it at all.
  • Care less about failure. Care more about success.
  • Care less about timing. Care more about the task.

In general, the idea behind imperfectionism is to not care so much about conditions or results, and care more about what you can do right now to move forward with your identity and your life.Think about this:

People with social anxiety care more about social interactions than anyone else does. They care so much about a social interaction going smoothly that they often avoid those situations altogether. And when theyre in social situations, they cant act naturally because theyre so concerned about how theyre coming across, how smoothly and pleasantly the exchange is going, and how something might go wrong.

Depressed people care more about shutting down negative thoughts than anyone else does. One day, novelist Leo Tolstoy’s brother told him to sit in a corner until he stopped thinking about a white bear. Much later that day, Tolstoy remained in the corner, his mind fixated on the white bear he needed to stop thinking about. This experiment has been replicated in more studies, and the result is always the same: when people forbid themselves or attempt to rid their mind of something, it boomerangs back to them with alarming consistency and persistency. The solution, then, is to allow negative thoughts but not care about them. In her book, The Willpower Instinct, Kelly McGonigal, PhD, says, “Studies show that the more you try to suppress negative thoughts, the more likely you are to become depressed.”

Nervous test takers care more about their test results than I ever did, and their nervousness may interfere with their ability to recall what they studied. 

Speaking of nervousness, after being healthy and calm my whole life, a spider bit me one morning, and a crazy chain of events transpired that sent me to the ER three times and, worse than that, made me begin to unravel mentally. After the spider bite, I overthought every sensation I felt. I started looking for major health problems; from this, I developed a sudden and severe case of general and health anxiety. It got to the point where I’d be visibly shaking in the corner of my bed, worried beyond reason and nervous about my nervousness.

Now I feel as calm as a jellyfish looks, and it’s because I finally learned to not care about feeling butterflies in my stomach for no reason. I learned to not care that I was nervous all the time. I acknowledged what was going on, and I didn’t care. Apathy saved my skin!

Telling people to stop caring in general is dangerous advice, but if that apathy is in the right place, it can be life-changing in the best way.”

From How to Be an Imperfectionist

One critical question this book answers is how to make a mindset change (such as changing your cares) into something actionable that you can practice. This technique alone is worth the price of admission!

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How to Be an Imperfectionist by the Numbers

  • Time to write: 11 months
  • Cost to produce: ~$2,500 (not counting my time)
  • Chapters: 10 chapters (plus the preface)
  • Word count: 51,149 words (Mini Habits was about 33,000 words)
  • Action-based solutions: 22 solutions across six categories of perfectionism
  • Special features: 10 humorous illustrations demonstrate each chapter’s concept
  • Research: 48 studies and sources cited

Mini Habits has been highly successful and is changing lives worldwide. And while the impact of How to Be an Imperfectionist is yet to be seen, I think it is an even better book than Mini Habits. It is fun to read, and it has some ideas I doubt you’ve heard elsewhere. For less than the price of a sandwich, you won’t find a better value than this.

I’m confident of this book can help you overcome perfectionistic tendencies better than any other book available because it marries smart strategies with realistic application. I’ve personally had success with these methods as well, and throughout the book, I’ll tell you stories of how I implemented them.

Imperfectionism is true mental freedom!

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